Holidays are a time traditionally spent with family and friends. Many of you are used to celebrating them with your parents or siblings and in specific ways. Whether it's lighting the menorah or decorating the Christmas tree, there are certain practices you look forward to each year. Now that there is a new person in your life, however, you may ask yourself 'how am I going to celebrate this year?' It's a fair question asked by many a bride. After all, two people means two families and many families celebrate holidays differently. Not to mention, if both families live on opposite sides of the country, how do you choose which family to spend which holiday with? These aren't simple decisions to be made, but like most decisions it begins with a conversation. It's important for you and your fiance to talk about the holidays and what they mean to you. Share with each other how you are used to spending it and if there are certain holidays that have more significance to you. If spending time with family is important to both of you, make an effort to spend different holidays with each of your folks. Maybe one year you will decide to spend Christmas with your parents and the next with his. The idea is to show each family that you care about and want to spend time with them, but want to share your time equally with both sides. Discussing your decision with your respective family members will also help.
Keep in mind that various other factors will likely occur when making your decision. Things like finances, time off from work, and other commitments may play a role in where you choose to spend which holidays. Talking about things in advance and splitting your time fairly (or close to it) between families is a good start to reducing holiday stress or feuds and keeping all parties happy.