Monday, April 30, 2012

Stress 101

The concept of stress and anxiety is often lumped into one category.  In reality, there are various types of stress, some of which is  quite good for you.  One's perception of stress to the body is also important in the big picture.  If it's a rational perception it's called fear, and if it's an irrational anticipation it's referred to as anxiety.  Acute stress is a temporary exposure to a stressor that generally doesn't have long term physical effects.  Chronic stress, on the other hand, is long term exposure to a stressor or perceived stressor, which can, in fact, result in illness or disease. How you view stress determines how well you cope with it and whether or not it becomes anxiety or chronic stress, which can be harmful to your body.  Keep in mind that is many cases stress is good for you.  For example, think of  athletes in training.  They are constantly stressing their muscles so they can reach new levels in their sport.  In much the same way, we need stress to stimulate our mental, physical, and even spiritual growth.  It is in the moments of tension and pressure that we often learn more about ourselves and how to improve.
Seeing the stress that revolves around your wedding planning as an opportunity to grow, rather than a insurmountable task will help curb your anxiety and keep your stress from becoming chronic.  There are a few things you can do to ensure you're on the right path.  First, be in control of your emotions and your ability to act with good judgment based on your emotions and the emotions of those around you.  Next, eliminate any fears you may be having by getting the appropriate knowledge.  If you're scared you won't be able to afford your wedding, for example, find out how much all the specifics costs and work from there.  Or if you have fears about the future of the relationship itself, talk to your partner or seek professional help.  The more knowledge you have, the less afraid you will be.  Finally, be optimistic.  Know that some things in the process will go smoothly and others may not; if something isn't working out, it doesn't mean that everything is going to fall apart.  Understanding that life is full of balances and not personalizing everything will make you a healthier and happier bride.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Getting Along

The joining of two people and families in marriage is not always a smooth transition.  With different people comes differing views and opinions.  It's likely that not everyone will get along. You may already know which family members aren't on the best of terms.  But how do you make sure it doesn't dampen your joyous day?  While there are no guarantees, it's best to have a positive attitude and take some steps to ensure a peaceful ceremony.  Communicate with both parties your gratitude for their participation in your wedding and your hope that they can put differences aside for the sake of your happiness.  Take action to minimize the potential for conflict.  That might mean seating two parties on opposite sides of the room or having a mutual friend buddy up with them during the wedding to lighten the mood.  It may also be beneficial to have your wedding planner do the dirty work.  If family members are not talking, let your planner be the impartial mediator who can give direction to both sides without being involved in the conflict.  As a professional, your planner can set the stage for how the wedding should look, while reminding all parties to remember the reason they are at your wedding: to celebrate your happiness.  If you don't have a wedding planner,  an impartial friend may be able to do the job too.
Your happiness is paramount on your wedding day.  So whatever happens, focus on the positive aspects of the day and delegate someone you trust to deal with any potential family drama.