Marriage is a huge step. As you enter into a new chapter in your life, you'll find it changes you in some ways and your lifestyle in others. But just because you're married doesn't mean you have to give up some of the things you love. In fact, continuing to participate in some of the activities you did as a single woman, even if it's without your partner, may help strengthen your marriage. Consider these ways to keep yourself happily married and feeling good about yourself at the same time:
For starters, keep up hobbies or activities you enjoy, even if you're husband doesn't. If prior to marriage, you enjoyed biking, scrapbooking, volunteering or some other hobby, keep up with it. Doing what you enjoy, makes you feel confident and happier. Your husband may have his hobbies that he needs to participate in too. By mutually agreeing to support each other's activities, you strengthen yourself and your relationship.
Next, have your girl time out. Whether it's once a week or once a month, getting together with other gals is important. Let's face it, men don't always get women; to have a supportive girlfriend network is a good way to stay in tuned with your emotional side and talk about things you might not discuss with your hubby. You'll likely have those "aha" moments and come to realize that you're not alone facing certain issues. That fact alone makes ladies night out so helpful. One caveat: be careful what you say, as words usually get around.
Third, continue your day job. If you work outside the home and enjoy doing it, keep at it. Working can build confidence and a sense of accomplishment. It can also make you feel more financially sound. It's a great feeling of satisfaction when you earn money and hopefully, have a little spending cash for yourself at the end of the month.
Finally, date nights out with your husband. Consider it like a pre-marriage date. That means not talking about responsibilities, finances, family, or other household roles you generally discuss on a daily basis. Go out and have fun. Enjoy each other's company, learn new things together, or ask questions you haven't thought about before. The purpose of these dates is to grow physically, emotionally, and spiritually together. When you constantly talk about what needs to get done and other every day details, marriage can start to feel like a job. There is a time for everything. Yes, you need to know who's paying the mortgage or picking up the dry cleaning, but save your dates for relationship building conversations and activities.