Friday, September 23, 2011

Turning a New Leaf

The change of seasons is a good time for introspection.  What are you doing that can be done better? Are there relationships you can improve?  Can you use your time more effectively? Taking a moment to look inside and better yourself is a constant challenge, especially when you're preoccupied with so much to do.  But what better time to do it, then now, as you find yourself getting ready to begin a new stage in your life.

It's easy to say you'd like to start fresh, but turning a new leaf is no easy task.  It is best to start small.  Pick something you want to work on.  Make sure it is something that you truly feel compelled to change.  That will keep you motivated through the process.  Also ask yourself, is this goal realistic and achievable.  If it's not, than see if you can turn it into one.  You may not be able to repair broken relationships with a family members before your wedding day, but you may be able to find a way not to argue with them, for example.  When you follow through with your intended action, go ahead and pat yourself on your back.  Change is hard work.  The more you stick to it, the more likely you'll create the outcome you intend.  And a better you will be a great springboard into your marriage.  Happy Autumn!

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Life Outside of Wedding Planning

There is so much to talk about and do when it comes to planning your wedding, that your life may become too focused on the wedding.  It's important for you to find a healthy balance between getting things done in a timely manner and making the time for those people who are important in your life.  Just because you have a million things to do, doesn't mean you should neglect your social life.

First and foremost, brides need to make sure they are nurturing their relationships with their partners. And while brides and grooms may be tackling some of their planning together, it's critical to spend some time continuing to go out for fun.  Schedule dates outside of wedding stuff.  Have a romantic dinner, take and stroll in the park, see a show, or whatever it is that the two of you enjoy doing.  Spending all your time on your wedding can become stressful and trying in any relationship, and taking a break will do you both a world of good  .

Family and friends also need to know that they are still an important part of your life.  Let them know ahead of time that you are excited about your upcoming nuptials and their sharing in your joy.  Inform them that you will be busy in the coming months, but will make every effort to stay connected.  Tell them you hope they understand that you may not be available for every get together during certain periods.  Explaining ahead of time your availability and time constraints means no surprises for your loved ones later.  Showing up, however, to a family affair or social event with friends, even if for a short time, is a great way to turn your attention to someone else and to remind yourself that as you share in the joys of others, so will they share in your happiness on your wedding day.