Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Standing Up for Your Dreams

The wedding industry can be a tough business.  And while everyone is clamoring for your patronage, it's important that your voice isn't lost in the mix.  For some brides, meeting with wedding professionals can be intimidating.  Brides may feel inclined to think that vendors have been in the business for years, so naturally they know what's best.  But what's best for them may not always be the right fit for you. I've heard the stories.  One bride met with a top hair stylist to the stars, who tried to convince her that she didn't want an updo for her wedding.  She told me she always pictured herself having her hair up on her wedding day, but was having second thoughts after her meeting.  Another bride admitted that she started feeling uncomfortable when interviewing a potential caterer who began the interview with a montage of the latest foods trends in wedding affairs, when she wanted something much simpler.  In both cases, the brides didn't know how to initially respond.  They felt eager to please the wedding professional, but uneasy about compromising their original plans.  In the end, the brides decided that despite the high credentials each professional had, it was better for them to part ways and find someone else who would work with them to make their dreams a reality.
It seems simple enough, but sometimes a bride gets so caught up in all the excitement and wants to make everyone else happy that she ends up pleasing everyone but herself.  Just because a professional has been in the business for years or has an "A" list of clients, doesn't mean they should tell you how something should be done.  Stand up and speak up for your hopes and dreams;  you are the bride and deserved to be heard.

Friday, October 5, 2012

A Good Night's Sleep

Life is busy.  And since your engagement it likely became a lot busier.  With so much to do and so little time, it's easy to start short changing yourself in areas that you think can take a back seat to everything else you have to accomplish.   Unfortunately, your sleep is often affected first. Between work, family, social life, and wedding planning it seems to make sense that you need to stay up later in the night to get it all done.  What you may not realize is that depriving yourself of a healthy night's sleep affects your body mentally and physically.  It can decrease your ability to pay attention or retain new information, and decrease your reaction to external stimuli.  In addition to these negative cognitive consequences, sleep deprivation can also put you at risk for health problems and depression.  You have to make important decisions daily and with a poor night's sleep, your brain doesn't function as well.   Research has shown that sleep is broken down into various stages in which damage in the brain caused by daily metabolism is repaired and "re-energized."  Cognitive processes that help your memory functioning and ability to learn new skills are also refreshed with a good night's sleep (Monitor on Psychology, 2006).
Everyone's sleeping habits are a bit different, but most studies show that 7-9 hours of sleep is best for optimal functioning.  To get restorative, healthy sleep, maintain a schedule and stick to it.  Save your to do list for another day and definitely, don't take it to bed with you! Take a warm bath, practice meditation, or do something else relaxing to help you wind down.  This lets your body and mind know you are quieting down and getting ready to sleep.   Release all your worries and tension and know that having a good night's sleep will help you deal with whatever you need to tomorrow.