Forgive and forget: if only it were that simple. In life, it's easy to hold grudges. Someone wrongs us and we feel the need to get even. We hold onto misdeeds and wrongdoings for weeks, months, or even years. Sometimes we don't even remember what the argument was about, but we know we were right and so, we don't forgive and we don't forget. At times in our lives when we embark on new journeys and open new chapters, it's a good practice to reflect on the act of forgiveness. When planning your wedding, you may find yourself come across a family member or friend that did something hurtful to you in the past or vice versa. Ask yourself if the hurt is worth the effects of holding a grudge. Bottling our emotions and negative feelings inside can cause anxiety, stress, restlessness, and a general sense of uneasiness. It can create bitterness and resentment. Most would agree, these aren't emotions you want to begin a happy time in your life with. Forgiveness, whether face to face or internally (i.e., forgiving yourself for something), can give you a sense of freedom. Many people who embrace forgiveness say they feel a weight lifted off their shoulders. They are no longer burdened by the negative feelings that surrounded them prior. They are happier and healthier.
If there is someone you need to forgive or need to ask forgiveness from, think about it. Consider your situation and feelings, and decide how you can move forward in a way that will help and heal you, if necessary. Challenge yourself to go to your wedding ceremony with a clean slate, ready to be filled with positive emotions, energy, and relationships. The act of forgiveness may help you get there.