Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Room For Error

In wedding planning, as in life, you are bound to make mistakes.  Not all decisions come easily, especially ones made under pressure and time constraints.  Recognizing errors early so you can correct them and not getting bogged down with the notion of perfection will alleviate some of the pressure. Once you notice that something doesn't seem to be going right, take steps to navigate in a better direction.  Ask family, friends, and/or vendors for their help where appropriate.  Remember that your vendors want you to have a positive experience with them, so they may have good ideas and suggestions for you.  Experienced vendors probably have seen it all and your problem area may not be new to them.  It can never hurt to ask.  And if they can't assist you, maybe they can recommend someone who can.
Another important concept to remember is to give yourself permission to make mistakes.  We are all human and we all make mistakes, big and small.  By allowing yourself this margin for error, you take a huge burden off your shoulders.  You will experience less anxiety and stress because you do not submit to the pressure of having to do everything perfectly.  Write yourself a wedding planning mantra to read daily giving yourself permission to make mistakes, to not feel guilty about them, and to enjoy your wedding despite any imperfections.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Mothers and Daughters

Let's face it: not all brides and their mothers are going to have a picture perfect wedding planning relationship.  So many emotions and feelings get stirred up when you become engaged and begin planning your wedding.  Disagreements are bound to happen.  If your mother has very different ideas than you for your wedding and is short of being supportive, you may decide it's best not have her involved in major decision making. Whatever you mother's involvement in your wedding plans, remember that she is your mother.  She brought you into this world and because of that you will be able to get married and start a new life of your own.  Mother-daughter relationships, like all relationships, need to be nurtured.  If planning your wedding together is becoming troublesome, think about doing what's best for your relationship with each other.  Talk to your mother about what's working and what's not working.  And if what's not working can't be fixed, consider discussing limited parental involvement in the planning in order to salvage the relationship.
Your wedding is meant to be a joyous occasion and should bring families together, not tear them apart.  As Mother's Day approaches, remember that regardless of what is going on between you and your mom when it comes to the wedding plans, it is still important that she knows you love and appreciate her.  Whether you buy her chocolates or plan a quick getaway for some quality time, take a break from the wedding stuff.  Celebrate mom and your relationship with her or the relationship you hope to achieve.  Happy Mother's Day!