Thursday, August 13, 2015

More Than Just a Wedding

Sure, you're planning what might be the biggest event of your life. And, of course, you want it to be perfect. But, have you considered how you plan to live after your "I do's?" No, I'm not talking about the specs of your new house or who's doing the laundry. I'm referring to your way of living. 
How you want to live includes lifestyle decisions, like healthy eating, meditation, date nights, or living within a budget. If you've talked about these things with each other you're on the right track. But the best way to start off on the right foot is to start now. You don't have to wait until you're married to live the lifestyle you want together. In fact, the more practice you have ahead of time, the better place you'll be in once the honeymoon is over. So if you're committed to eating healthier or exercising more, begin now. Do it jointly, so you know you're on the right page. If money is an issue, don't let it become a burden in your relationship. Don't start your marriage off in a deficit. Live now, the way you want to live after the wedding. If that means cutting the guest list or changing venues, to stay in your wedding budget , then do it. You're setting a precedent for your future life together. Make it a point to have date nights, while planning your wedding. If you do, it's more likely you'll continue the tradition after the celebration is over. Date nights are a great way to stay focused on each other and learn and grow more together. 
A lot of couples will say, "I don't have time now" or "we plan on making those changes once things settle down." I'll let you in on a little secret: You won't have time later either and things will never settle down. Life is constantly in motion and there might never feel like enough time to finally sit down and say, "okay, let's start doing this." If it's not wedding planning, it's relocating, having a baby, or starting a new job. The most ideal time is now because you never know what tomorrow will bring or what lies ahead. Make planning your wedding more than just about one day; make it about planning your life.