The wedding industry can be a tough business. And while everyone is clamoring for your patronage, it's important that your voice isn't lost in the mix. For some brides, meeting with wedding professionals can be intimidating. Brides may feel inclined to think that vendors have been in the business for years, so naturally they know what's best. But what's best for them may not always be the right fit for you. I've heard the stories. One bride met with a top hair stylist to the stars, who tried to convince her that she didn't want an updo for her wedding. She told me she always pictured herself having her hair up on her wedding day, but was having second thoughts after her meeting. Another bride admitted that she started feeling uncomfortable when interviewing a potential caterer who began the interview with a montage of the latest foods trends in wedding affairs, when she wanted something much simpler. In both cases, the brides didn't know how to initially respond. They felt eager to please the wedding professional, but uneasy about compromising their original plans. In the end, the brides decided that despite the high credentials each professional had, it was better for them to part ways and find someone else who would work with them to make their dreams a reality.
It seems simple enough, but sometimes a bride gets so caught up in all the excitement and wants to make everyone else happy that she ends up pleasing everyone but herself. Just because a professional has been in the business for years or has an "A" list of clients, doesn't mean they should tell you how something should be done. Stand up and speak up for your hopes and dreams; you are the bride and deserved to be heard.