You got engaged, celebrated, and now it's time to get to work planning your wedding. Suddenly, as you dive in to your wedding preparations, you begin to feel as if you are doing most everything and your fiance is just not interested in helping. It may even feel like he doesn't care. So how do you get him more involved?
Not surprisingly, this situation comes up many times. In general, women are the ones who do a lot of the hard work when it comes to planning a wedding. It doesn't mean that your fiance doesn't care or isn't interested in the wedding details. Let's just call it part of nature. Some men enjoy being part of all the decision making and some men don't. So relax; it usually has little to do with your relationship with each other.
If it's truly making you feel bad, talk to him. Tell him how you feel and see what he says. If choosing flowers and picking out a color scheme is not his thing, then respect that. Share your desire to plan the wedding together, but show understanding if he's not interested in all the details. Ask him what parts he would like to be involved in and work on those together. Better he enjoy that time with you, then spend hours upset because he feels forced into doing something he'd rather not be doing. And just because your fiance may not be making some wedding decisions, doesn't mean you can't share your choices with him afterwards. Agree on a day during the week where you can update him on the progress you're making to create a special day for you both. This way, you can feel like you are planning together. Plus, if you made a wedding day decision he doesn't care for, your fiance might just realize the benefits of taking a more active role if he wants some say!
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