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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Bride and Groom Unite

Now that you're engaged, you will come to realize that everybody is about to start offering you advice. From where and when to get married to what to wear and who to hire, family and friends will have an opinion. If you are open to the many words of wisdom, great! Grab a pen and paper and start taking notes. At some point though, you may begin feeling overloaded with information. That's when things get a bit fuzzy and you're not sure whose advice to follow or why you decided to listen to everyone in the first place.
If you're starting to feel overwhelmed by all the well meaning suggestions, try not giving it too much attention. The next time someone offers you advice, thank them and change the conversation to something else you'd rather talk about. If they are persistent, offer your appreciation and let them know you have already taken care of it or will give their ideas some consideration, if that's the case. You can even let them know that, as it happens, today is your 'day off' from wedding planning talk. Everybody needs a break, right?!
Once you've made some wedding decisions, stick to them. Don't let someone's negative reaction get under your skin. This is when it's time to call in the cavalry, aka your groom. Presenting a united front with your groom gives you support and makes it harder for others to argue against. So if your best friend can't understand why you chose not to use her brother as a photographer, tell her you and your fiance looked at many options and after much discussion decided on someone else. Always show appreciation for their recommendations, but be firm once you've made a decision. No need for explanations either. Make sure your fiance is in the know and on the same page as you in case your friend decides to approach him on the matter too. The important point is that making an argument for your choices together is stronger than making one on your own. And for various reasons, sometimes hearing the decision from your other half makes the news easier to swallow and less of a sticking point.

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