Guilt. We all have it. It's that nagging feeling you get inside when you think you've done or said something wrong. You feel like you've compromised your beliefs or standards, which may or may not be true. It happens. And it's bound to rear it's ugly head while you plan your wedding too. Don't let it get the best of you.
Planning a wedding is a highly emotional period. You'll be talking to many people and making more decisions than you probably anticipated. A guilty conscience is inevitable at some point. If something you did or said is getting under your skin, take a closer look at it. What's making you uncomfortable? Journal about it if you have to. Are you feeling guilty about not inviting a friend to your wedding? Do you feel bad because you turned down your cousin's offer to be your wedding photographer? Or maybe you feel guilty because you decided against a bachelorette party, much to the dismay of your friends.
First and foremost, do what feels right and comfortable for you. You're the bride and you shouldn't feel pressured into having a party you don't want. You certainly shouldn't accept an offer to help out at the wedding if you're not certain of someone's skills or abilities. Go with your gut and then toss the guilt out the window! It might be helpful to imagine what you would think of your decisions 20 years from now. If an older, wiser you feels bad for not inviting someone, you might want to reconsider.
Remember that you cannot please everybody. And that's okay. There are too many people involved in planning a wedding for everyone to be happy. Trying to accommodate everyone and everything will leave you feeling frustrated and stressed out. If you're getting to that point, say "Goodbye, guilt. This is my happy time."
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