If you are getting married soon or just got married, you're about to enter what might be the most exciting time of your life. It might also be the most trying. And I'm here to let you know that it's all good and natural.
Let's start with the ups. When you're a newlywed, you're in a state of bliss. It's such a happy time. You've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. It's a time where you can focus on each other and building your relationship together. If it's just the two of you and no kids around yet, it gives you more freedom to go out more, continue to date, and share more intimate moments. You'll begin forming routines and starting new traditions together. It's great fun to think of how you, as a couple, plan on entertaining friends and family or decide to celebrate the holidays. Your wedding day memories are ever present in your mind and it still feels like you're on your honeymoon. Being a newlywed is about beginnings. And that's a great thing. Starting fresh with your partner in life!
Of course, with all the ups there must be some downs too. Change isn't easy. And living with someone other than yourself isn't either. If you weren't living together before the wedding, chances are you're learning a whole lot more about your spouse. From habits to pet peeves, you'll find some little quirks adoring and others annoying. As with all changes, there's going to be a learning curve. The two of you will need to find ways to express yourselves and communicate your needs, hopes, and wishes. It won't be easy. There might be disagreements, misunderstandings, and even some eye rolling. The good news is most of it is normal. But you have to put in as much effort during the down times as you do during the blissful moments. Strengthening your relationship early on will help you learn how to weather other stressors that might come along in the years ahead. And that's the foundation for a rock solid marriage.
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