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Tuesday, January 14, 2014

The Long Distance Factor

Being engaged comes with many emotions: joy, excitement, happiness, anxiety, and many others. If you live in the same city as your fiance, you are likely able to share your feelings and decisions with each other easily. But what if you are in a long distance relationship or your fiance is abroad for work or in the military? You might share the same feelings, mixed with others due to the distance between the two of you.
So how do you cope with all the stresses of wedding planning when your fiance is not close by? Firstly, acknowledge your feelings. Planning a wedding is overwhelming and not having your partner around to help you with all the details makes it more challenging and sometimes, just plain lonely. Also if your fiance is on active duty, you may have additional fears and worries that come with military life. So express your feelings, dreams, and concerns with the one you love. It will strengthen your relationship and hopefully, give you the support you need from your future husband. And don't forget to surround yourself with other supportive people either.
Next, keep him in the loop as much as possible. Depending on your situation, inform him on your progress and involve him with decision making. It keeps you both connected in the planning process and part of creating your wedding. Also, don't be afraid to ask for help. If your fiance isn't able to assist you, don't expect that you have to do it all on your own. Reach out to family and friends on both sides and see where they can be involved or hire a wedding planner to alleviate some of the pressure.
Finally, remember that your relationship is the most important aspect. Whether you have a small or big wedding, simple or fancy, let it be something that works for the both of you, in terms of time, distance, and emotional factors.  When all is said and done, whatever decisions you make, let them strengthen your bond together and move you into the next chapter in your life.

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