Where Wedding Meet Tradition

Whether in the form of cultural or religious practices or keeping in with a family custom, traditions in weddings can take on any given form. The question is what the tradition means to you and how you feel about keeping it alive. For some brides it's a given. Family, cultural, or religious beliefs play an important role in your life and therefore will be a big part of the wedding ceremony or reception. For other brides, it's not as simple. Maybe there are some traditions you like and others you're not as comfortable with. Or maybe you would rather keep things more modern and in step with your generation. Knowing what's important to you and your family will help you decide what your wedding day might look like.

If things aren't so clear cut for you or you're struggling with your family's traditional expectations versus your own, take a moment for introspection. How do you envision your wedding day? What family or cultural practices are making you uneasy? What about these traditions might you like or dislike? Are there ways you can incorporate parts of it into your wedding ceremony or reception, without sacrificing your wedding day dreams?

If part of you is worried that some traditions seem outdated or you're concerned with what your guests might think, keep in mind that lots of folks find different cultural and religious practices interesting. It may be a first experience for some guests, making it unlike most weddings they have been to. This can make things more memorable since it's so unique. If your worries are less about others and more about yourself not fitting into the role your family expects, you need to talk to them. See if there are any acceptable compromises both sides can make, especially if they are helping to foot the bill. If your mother wants you to wear your Great Grandmother's dress that has been passed down from generation to generation, but is not quite your style, ask if you can alter it to suit your needs, if at all possible. Or explain how you've always dreamed of a different type of gown, but maybe could wear her veil. Of course, if neither of those options feel right for you, let them know. As the bride, you want to look and feel your best.

Keeping some form of tradition is always meaningful at a wedding. There are creative ways to incorporate beliefs and practices into you wedding, even if not outwardly visible. Decide what is important to you and your loved ones and what ways incorporating those traditions might help all parties be happy with the outcome.