To Have or Have Not

Monday Musings: Have you and your partner discussed having children? You might be thinking, "I just got engaged, why do I need to be thinking of children?" The truth is you don't, as long as you and your fiance have discussed what your family life will look like once you are married. There are many components to marriage and one of them is whether or not to add to the family tree. This is one conversation where you both need to be on the same page. If you want children and your partner doesn't (or vice versa), don't think that you will be able to convince him later on to change his mind. It wouldn't be fair to either of you if you don't agree on this subject, or at least accept your mutual decision, whatever that may be. In your discussion, also talk about how many kids you're thinking, what your approach to disciplining is, and in general how you want to raise them. As long as you and your future husband have a clear picture of what your family life will look like and an idea of how you plan on getting there, you can save the finer details for a later date and enjoy the time you have with each other now.