Now more than ever, people are concerned about their finances. Money is an important part of everyone's lives, and brides and grooms will do well to discuss a wedding budget and money matters before planning their wedding. Discussing finances can be challenging, but it is important, not only for the wedding expenses, but for your future together. While there are many financial considerations to discuss, both of you should understand how the other manages money, what debt may be looming, and who plans to pay for what. If family members are paying for your wedding, talk with them ahead of time about your wedding goals to see if it will work. Make sure to have an actual sit down discussion where everybody understands exactly what the budget is, how it will be paid and who will pay it .
As you move along in the planning process, determine how much you will be willing to spend on your entire wedding, as well as for various vendors. If food is more important to you than flowers, maybe you will budget more money towards a caterer than to a florist. You will certainly save money if you do some things yourself or enlist family and friend's help. Share your ideas with your significant other and family members paying for part of the wedding. It will show them your priorities and how you plan on getting the most for your money. They will also appreciate that you took the time to share your thoughts.
Friday, August 5, 2011
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Interruptions...
Hi All!
Sorry for the interruption in writing. Since my last post, I delivered and have been caring for a healthy and beautiful baby girl. Not quite five months old, but she is fairly active and keeps me on my toes. This brings me to the appropriate topic of interruptions. Everything in life does not always go smoothly. There's bound to be things that get in the way. And although you're planning what will be one of the most important days in your life, there may be something that you didn't plan for that could distract you from your planning. For me, it was an ill grandfather. I planned my wedding under strict time constraints so that he would be able to see one of his grandchildren married. Although he couldn't attend the wedding, we recreated it in the nursing home he was residing in across the country a few days later. He passed away two months afterwards.
Coping with the stress of an ill loved one or any other emotional situation makes planning a wedding a lot more challenging. The key to getting through it is your mental attitude. Instead of focusing on how guilty I would feel if my grandfather didn't see me married, I continuously reminded myself that my grandfather loved me and would be happy for me no matter what. I also envisioned our "second" wedding at the nursing home and what a wonderful day that would be. I understood that letting my emotions get in the way of the planning aspect or starting to feel bad about myself would not help my family or myself. Staying positive and focused help me deal with this unexpected situation. Positive mental attitude in all situations-expected or not- is key!
Sorry for the interruption in writing. Since my last post, I delivered and have been caring for a healthy and beautiful baby girl. Not quite five months old, but she is fairly active and keeps me on my toes. This brings me to the appropriate topic of interruptions. Everything in life does not always go smoothly. There's bound to be things that get in the way. And although you're planning what will be one of the most important days in your life, there may be something that you didn't plan for that could distract you from your planning. For me, it was an ill grandfather. I planned my wedding under strict time constraints so that he would be able to see one of his grandchildren married. Although he couldn't attend the wedding, we recreated it in the nursing home he was residing in across the country a few days later. He passed away two months afterwards.
Coping with the stress of an ill loved one or any other emotional situation makes planning a wedding a lot more challenging. The key to getting through it is your mental attitude. Instead of focusing on how guilty I would feel if my grandfather didn't see me married, I continuously reminded myself that my grandfather loved me and would be happy for me no matter what. I also envisioned our "second" wedding at the nursing home and what a wonderful day that would be. I understood that letting my emotions get in the way of the planning aspect or starting to feel bad about myself would not help my family or myself. Staying positive and focused help me deal with this unexpected situation. Positive mental attitude in all situations-expected or not- is key!
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